SEASON 2 – LESSONS 1-18 – PARENTS

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Week 1: Good Luck

“Don’t wait for success to come your way because if you do, it will never happen.” Coach Mackey

 

Whether it’s before a game, a big exam, or a job interview, people like to use the phrase “good luck” to show that they wish us the best. The problem with that phrase is that it hints that we aren’t really the masters of our own success. “Good luck” says we aren’t really in control of whether or not we win the game, pass the test, or get the job offer.

 

The truth is, we are in control. We control how much time we spend practicing drills and running plays before game, how hard we push to get faster, better, and stronger. We control how much time we spend studying before a test, and how hard we work to retain the information. We control how much time we spend practicing answers to interview questions, and how hard we try to gain all the knowledge we can about the job and company.

 

There will be things we can’t control, like how good the other team is, what questions will be on the exam, or what the job interviewer is looking for in a new hire. But, we can use all of that preparation that we can control to counter the unknown variables. All the good luck in the world won’t help us if we haven’t prepared first.

 

We are not passive participants in our futures. We are active creators.

 

That’s not to say that opportunity and chance don’t play some role. But opportunity is useless if we don’t know what to do with it when it appears. We have to set the intention to prepare for those opportunities, and that is when we will find success.

 

If the other team’s hitter makes a sloppy spike, that’s an opportunity. But, we can only take advantage of that opportunity if we’ve prepared and practiced for that type of situation. If the other team’s quarterback fumbles, that’s an opportunity. But, we can only take advantage of that opportunity if we’ve prepared and practiced for that type of scenario.

 

That ability to take advantage of opportunities depends on how hard we’ve worked to prepare for them. So the next time someone tells us “good luck,” we should replace that idea with “hard work.”

Week 2: Little Things

Everyone loves celebrating the big things.

 

The trophies, the big wins, the acceptance letters. They’re all big achievements, and they are certainly worthy of celebration, but people tend to forget all of the little things that had to happen to make those big things a reality.

 

Every goal achieved is a culmination of a lot of little actions. Reaching a new squat PR is a culmination of thousands of single reps made over the course of days, weeks, and years. Beating our best time is a culmination of shaving thousandths of a second off laps made over the course of days, weeks, and years. It all requires steadfast purpose and the will to persevere to get just one more rep, just one more lap, add just one more pound, drop just one more tenth of a second.

 

But, because the focus is so often on celebrating the big things instead of the little victories, we sometimes buy the lie that it’s only important to be successful in the big things. That if we’re excellent on game day, we don’t have to work as hard in the off-season, or excel in the classroom.

 

It doesn’t work that way, though. How we handle the little things expresses how we’ll handle the bigs things. If we can’t be trusted to take care of the little things, how can anyone trust us to handle the big things? If we’re complacent in practice, we’ll be complacent during the game. But if we give our all to the practice, we’ll give our all in the game.

 

If we want to find success on the field or court for the big wins, we need to commit to giving our best at the little things first.

Week 3: Click Clack

Click. Clack.

 

It’s the last sound we hear before stepping out onto the field. It’s the unmistakable click clack of cleats on concrete. There’s a rush that comes with that sound because it carries with it all the hype of a game about to start. Anything could happen. This is what we’ve prepared for during practice. Game time.

 

There’s an added element when it’s our home field, too. There’s an extra drive to win because we aren’t just playing, we’re protecting our house, our home field. There’s a sense of pride that helps us dig deeper and go further to protect our home field advantage.

 

We should be applying that same pride and drive to protect something even more important than our home field advantage: our character.

 

We need to be able to stand up against whatever temptation or adversity comes our way that tries to coerce us into compromising our integrity, loyalty, or values. Our character is more important than any win on the field. We have to dig just as deep, and even deeper, to protect our character than we do to protect our home field.

 

The temptations we encounter will look different for each of us. Some will be tempted to take an easier road to deal with the pressure of needing to perform well, but that sacrifices integrity. Some will be tempted to climb over other people on the team to get to the top, but that sacrifices loyalty. Some will be tempted to think they already have all the answers and are exempt from the rules that bind other people, but that sacrifices values.

 

Selfish, proud acts like those don’t align with the values that our parents and coaches have worked to instill in us and that our team has pledged to stand for. If we give in to the temptation to push someone else down to rise up, or cheat in order to take an easier road, we are sacrificing bits and pieces of our character.

 

To combat those temptations, we need to go on the offensive. We need to draw a line in the sand and declare that we will not lose our character anymore than we would lose a game on our home field. We will not compromise our character.

 

“Are you willing to protect your character more than you’re willing to protect your home field advantage?” Coach Mackey

Week 4: Second Wind

“Most people don’t go far enough on their first wind to find out they have a second wind.” William James

 

Whether it’s running, swimming, weight lifting, or any other exercise that requires persistence and endurance to keep going, somewhere during the exercise we feel like we just can’t go another step further. Our legs and arms are shaking, our breathing is labored, and our muscles are screaming at us to please just stop already. We can either accept that we’ve hit our limit and give up, or we can push that little bit further, dig that little bit deeper, and find additional strength we never knew we had.

 

When we refuse to give up at the end of our first wind, a second wind rises up and we discover that we are capable of more than we ever believed. Most people never experience that realization because they are too quick to throw in the towel. But, if we put in the work long enough, hard enough, our perseverance is rewarded.

 

We live in a world that is quick to quit. A lot of people are willing to quit as soon as whatever they are doing becomes inconvenient. They think it should’ve been easier than it was, so they just walk away. Those people are unsuccessful because they aren’t willing to persevere through their first wind to get to their second wind.

 

There will always be more temptations to quit than temptations to keep going. Things like peer pressure, personal relationships, and society as a whole will tell us that there’s no reason to keep going. But, if we ignore all of that useless chatter and focus in on what our own hearts are telling us, we can persevere. If we do, we’ll be absolutely shocked by just how wrong those negative voices were.

 

We just have to remember that it’s not always easy to tell when we’ve hit the end of our first wind. The only way to really know, is to keep going.

Week 5: On Purpose

No one just stumbles into success. We have to succeed on purpose.

 

It’s important to dream about the goal and envision what the end result will look like, but dreaming and wishing isn’t what will actually get us there. We can’t just imagine how awesome it will be when we reach the top. We can’t even just plan out the work that it will take and imagine putting the plan into action.

 

Goals and plans are essential, but the only thing that actually leads to success is purposed action.

 

We should live and act with intention and purpose. Why am I doing this thing? What am I trying to achieve with this action? Who am I doing it for? The answers to those questions determine if the current action is actually going to help us achieve our goals.

 

We should also use our available resources, such as time, finances and people, with purpose and intention. We can’t accidentally manage our time or finances well any more than we can accidentally buy a new car. It’s not a thing that “just happens.”

 

A lot of time is spent focusing on why we are doing things. What is our reason and purpose for wanting to achieve this specific end result? Why is this goal special? But that’s not really what we’re talking about right now. There’s a difference between having a purpose and acting with purpose. Having a purpose means having a goal that we are working towards for a reason. Acting with purpose means intentionally performing the actions required to reach that goal.

 

Both aspects are important, but the first will never happen without the second. That’s why we want to live on purpose, for a purpose.

Week 6: Impress vs. Impact

Everyday, we have a choice to make as to whether we want to impress people or impact people’s lives.

 

When we focus on trying to impress others, we care about our reputations (and ourselves) more than we care about the impact we can have on the lives of others. The desire to impress others means that our purpose in life is one of selfishness and striving to be enough based on what other people see, rather than what we actually are. No matter what we do, it will never be enough because we will never receive enough accolades or applause to feel that we have really and truly succeeded.

 

When we instead focus on trying to have an impact on others, we care about our character and the people we can assist more than we care about the records we can break to gain attention. When we desire to be impactful, our purpose is one of selflessness and striving to make the world a better place because we genuinely care about others.

 

Some people think that we can make a bigger impact on the world if we are more impressive, have more money, or break more records. But, those things don’t necessarily go hand in hand. This idea that we have to be better on the court to be more impactful stems from a misconception that the best players make the best leaders.

 

Possession of skill and talent in the game does not automatically make someone a good leader. The best leaders aren’t always the best players. The best leaders are the ones who put their own interests aside to promote the interests of the team instead.

 

All athletes are leaders in some way because our society respects and admires athletes. Because of that, we have a special opportunity to make an impact in our communities, if we stop focusing on trying to impress people.

Season 2 Lessons 7-12 will Release August 15, 2018

Season 2 Lessons 13-18 will Release October 1, 2018

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